12 Feb Happy Valentine’s Day

I LOVE YOU

How often to do tell yourself that you love you?

We can often give our love to another person and forget about ourselves!

Before you can really love another person in full, you need to be able to love yourself first.

Every morning before starting your day take a few moments and look into a mirror and say to yourself  “I love you” and add your name, your body hears everything that you say and will really appreciate hearing those words from you.

Take your time and add a loving energy, appreciation and care when you are doing your hygiene routines for yourself, i.e.  Clean your teeth slowly and admire how they look and what they are capable of doing, without them you wouldn’t be able to chew your food properly. When taking a shower or a bath give your extra time to relax in the water, when applying moisturiser to your body do it slowly with love, your body will respond to you by feeling good and be able to be more relaxed and at ease with itself.

For those of you who may not be getting together with a loved one this Valentine’s Day, plan your own date with yourself. A meal at your favourite restaurant, a trip to an Art Gallery or maybe the Cinema – you choose this is your date!

Whether you are in a relationship or not tidy up your bedroom, keep it uncluttered, gender neutral and the decoration simple, add the colour “Pink” to your room (even if you are a single male) Feng Shui teachers recommend that pink sheets are a good choice because they have the “fire” from the colour red but are more sentimental than the shade of red.  Remove any photos of anyone else from the bedroom except for ones of yourself and your lover/partner – try making a collage of photos from good times that you have already had together i.e. wedding, first date, holiday etc. this will bring that energy into the bedroom and if you have other people or family members living in your home ensure you have a good lock on the door for your privacy.

A few relationship tips:

• Always remember a great relationship isn’t needy. – In a great relationship, you love each other more than you need each other.
• If you’re not happy with yourself, or comfortable with your own truths when entering a relationship, there’s a good chance you’re not ready. Don’t rely on a relationship to fix YOU.  Focus on loving yourself first.
• People can only change themselves.  Instead of trying to change your partner, give them your support and lead by example.  Maybe, there is a specific behaviour they have that you are hoping will fade over time, it is most likely it won’t, so if you really need them to change something specific, be honest with your partner so they know how you feel and why.  But keep in mind that the best way to love someone is not to change them, but instead to help them reveal the greatest version of themselves.
• Not all relationships last forever. We don’t live forever, so remember to appreciate what you have now with your partner, the special and loving moments and all the little things – so you always know how much they mean to you while they are here and then also when they are gone.
• Should a relationship not be working out for you, honour yourself with love and move on from the experience, keep your heart open, know you love yourself fully and that you will meet somebody who will be a better vibrational match for you.
• One of the most painful things in life is losing yourself in the process of loving others too much, and forgetting that you are special too.  So pay attention to the relationship you have with yourself and know it is okay now to love yourself completely just as you are, that you are enough and that you can say to yourself “Well done”, “Good Job”, “You’re a Star” any time and at any place.

Put your focus on what is working for yourself and with another, rather than on what is not working, because as you know:  What you focus on grows stronger in your life!

Valentine’s Day is a special reminder to re-connect to the amazing energy of LOVE

Love for our-selves is the foundation for healing and shifting everything in our lives